“I don’t think I can be a wife, gusto ko lng maging isang ina. Yoko ata maging asawa.”
Those were the words that came out from the mouth of my preggy bestfriend who is torn between being a wife and a mother. She is 3months pregnant and is yet to decide whether to be part of the married statistic of the world. She feels that marriage is not for her but motherhood is.
“nde ka ba natatakot na nde magka anak?” I don’t think im fit to become a mother, I am just a wife.”
Honestly, Im really not afraid of it. Maybe one way or another I kinda psyche myself for those things. That is why its no longer a big issue to our marriage. Im very lucky (uber) to have a husband who is very supportive and understanding and plus it’s a consensual decision.
I recently read from the book of Elizabeth Gilbert’s Eat, Pray and Love her insight on having a child or in motherhood and I will quote a paragraph in her book, which I find very interesting. And I wanna share it to all of you. Here it goes:
“How many people have I heard claim their children as the greatest accomplishment and comfort in their lives? It’s a thing they always lean on during metaphysical crisis… If I have done nothing else in this life, then at least I have raised my children well. But what if, either by choice or by reluctant necessity, you end up not participating in this comforting cycle of family and continuity? What if you step out? Where do you sit in reunion? How do you mark time’s passage without fear that you’ve just frittered away your time on earth without being relevant? You’ll need to find another purpose, another measure by which to judge whether or not you have been a successful human being. I love children, but what if I don’t have any? What kind of person does that make me? “ (Elizabeth Gilbert. Eat, Pray, Love. p. 126)
So, will you become a mother or a wife or maybe both?!?
Laters…
Those were the words that came out from the mouth of my preggy bestfriend who is torn between being a wife and a mother. She is 3months pregnant and is yet to decide whether to be part of the married statistic of the world. She feels that marriage is not for her but motherhood is.
“nde ka ba natatakot na nde magka anak?” I don’t think im fit to become a mother, I am just a wife.”
Honestly, Im really not afraid of it. Maybe one way or another I kinda psyche myself for those things. That is why its no longer a big issue to our marriage. Im very lucky (uber) to have a husband who is very supportive and understanding and plus it’s a consensual decision.
I recently read from the book of Elizabeth Gilbert’s Eat, Pray and Love her insight on having a child or in motherhood and I will quote a paragraph in her book, which I find very interesting. And I wanna share it to all of you. Here it goes:
“How many people have I heard claim their children as the greatest accomplishment and comfort in their lives? It’s a thing they always lean on during metaphysical crisis… If I have done nothing else in this life, then at least I have raised my children well. But what if, either by choice or by reluctant necessity, you end up not participating in this comforting cycle of family and continuity? What if you step out? Where do you sit in reunion? How do you mark time’s passage without fear that you’ve just frittered away your time on earth without being relevant? You’ll need to find another purpose, another measure by which to judge whether or not you have been a successful human being. I love children, but what if I don’t have any? What kind of person does that make me? “ (Elizabeth Gilbert. Eat, Pray, Love. p. 126)
So, will you become a mother or a wife or maybe both?!?
Laters…
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