Family is the core of the society. With the increasing rates of separations, annulments and divorce, broken families or so called dysfunctional families are very popular and no longer a taboo in our society.
I saw an interview of Oprah with Seal; he was comparing his happy married life to being raised in a dysfunctional family. He pointed out that growing up in a dysfunctional family – an environment not suitable for children is a very painful and difficult one, made him realized at a very young age the value of marriage and family. Instead of seeing it as “role model” he thought of the opposite. Thus, he said, during his search for love, he learned to value relationships because that’s what he didn’t saw when he was growing up. And finally, when he got married to supermodel Heidi Klum, he wanted a family totally the opposite of what he saw when he was growing up. Exactly my point, he really hit the key notes well! Perfect!
Self righteous people will conclude that once raised in a broken family, the child will also be having a broken family of his own when he grows up. Because they say that it runs in the genes and it is what they have seen during their growing years, their environment so for them they say that you will adapt it eventually. How pathetic and very judgmental.
Most of those children who grew up in such environment can attest to the fact that, such situation either “make them or break them” thingy. It can make them value more the essence of family and marriage or it can break them into rebellion or even dread it for they feel it will happen to them as well.
But, in my case and my hubby’s as well, it made us a whole new person and it made us to where we are right now – because we valued the lessons and learned from the past mistakes of including the pains we had experienced during childhood. I guess it was a blessing from God having bought us together, for we have the same “childhood dysfunctional family background”. We both saw how difficult it was to be raised in such environment, how painful separation was, how many wrong turns and setbacks our parents took and how it boiled down to nothing but chaos and traumatic separations. That is why it’s always a reality check for us on how much we should value our marriage and each other plus for our future family as well. Boom!
I saw an interview of Oprah with Seal; he was comparing his happy married life to being raised in a dysfunctional family. He pointed out that growing up in a dysfunctional family – an environment not suitable for children is a very painful and difficult one, made him realized at a very young age the value of marriage and family. Instead of seeing it as “role model” he thought of the opposite. Thus, he said, during his search for love, he learned to value relationships because that’s what he didn’t saw when he was growing up. And finally, when he got married to supermodel Heidi Klum, he wanted a family totally the opposite of what he saw when he was growing up. Exactly my point, he really hit the key notes well! Perfect!
Self righteous people will conclude that once raised in a broken family, the child will also be having a broken family of his own when he grows up. Because they say that it runs in the genes and it is what they have seen during their growing years, their environment so for them they say that you will adapt it eventually. How pathetic and very judgmental.
Most of those children who grew up in such environment can attest to the fact that, such situation either “make them or break them” thingy. It can make them value more the essence of family and marriage or it can break them into rebellion or even dread it for they feel it will happen to them as well.
But, in my case and my hubby’s as well, it made us a whole new person and it made us to where we are right now – because we valued the lessons and learned from the past mistakes of including the pains we had experienced during childhood. I guess it was a blessing from God having bought us together, for we have the same “childhood dysfunctional family background”. We both saw how difficult it was to be raised in such environment, how painful separation was, how many wrong turns and setbacks our parents took and how it boiled down to nothing but chaos and traumatic separations. That is why it’s always a reality check for us on how much we should value our marriage and each other plus for our future family as well. Boom!
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4 comments:
yeah, i agree. growing up in a dysfunctional family is so hard.
but a dysfunctional one will be functional with the help of love. =)
@vanny- yep... i hafta agree! korek, fwen... with the help pf love and understanding it'l be just a breeze... hehehe
Sa palagay ko,ang mga nilalang na naging matagumpay sa kabila ng kanilang dysfunctional na pamilya ay matatag at malakas.
@anino- tumpak anino! maraming salamt sa pag komento at pagbisita!
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